3 - 4 Months

Reach, grasp, mouth, repeat

Before your baby’s hands open, the world happens mostly to them or for them. In the coming months, as their hands open, and they begin to use them, your baby will start to see the impact they can have on their own little world. They will first open their hands and begin to bat at objects. Eventually, they will reach, grasp, and mouth objects that interest them. Exciting stuff 🙂 All of that reaching, grasping, and mouthing practice also builds hand-eye coordination.

Here’s what to expect from your baby as they learn to reach, grasp, bat and mouth:

Hands start to open

Baby laying on the ground looking up at the Black and White Contrast Cards by Lovevery
In photo: Complex Black & White Card Set from The Looker Play Kit

Somewhere between 2 ½ and 3 ½ months, your baby’s hands will start to open up. If their hands are mostly in a fist, here are some ideas to help your baby open their hands:

  • Stroke the back of their hands and see if they open their fist
  • Gently uncurl their fingers and thumb
  • Rub or pat their hands together, or pat their hand on your hand
  • Let them touch and pat your face

Reflexive grasping

Baby laying down grabbing on to a woman's finger

Before about 4 months, your baby’s fingers will reflexively wrap around an object when it is placed in their hand. The more often you engage your baby’s grasping reflex, the sooner they’ll be able to open and close their hands voluntarily. Here’s how you can help:

  • Stroke the back of your baby’s hands to help open them
  • Place a ring inside their hands; they’ll reflexively wrap their fingers around it
  • Help them keep grasping the ring by gently putting your hands over their fist

Reaching towards objects, not yet grasping

Baby looking at the Batting Ring on The Play Gym by Lovevery
In photo: The Play Gym

Sometime between 2 ½ and 4 ½ months, your baby will start reaching towards an object without yet being able to grasp it. You can help by giving your baby lots of practice batting at the safe dangling objects in The Play Gym:

  • Place your baby on their back with their chest in line with the dangling Batting Ring
  • Babies around 1 to 3 months will start to wave their arms around when they see a toy
  • See if their hands and arms accidentally contact the ring—move their arms if necessary to show what happens
  • The Batting Ring is especially helpful, since it’s the appropriate height for accidental contact and makes a happy noise at the slightest touch

Grasping and mouthing

A baby laying on its back chewing on the Batting Ring from the Play Gym by Lovevery
In photo: The Play Gym

Sometime around 4 to 5 months, your baby may start to reach for an object with both hands and grasp it for a moment or two. As soon as your baby can hold things, they’ll want to put them into their mouth.

Over the next year, they will practice with smaller and smaller objects to refine their grasp.


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